Sexuality & privacy

Being an egg donor involves sharing a great deal of information about your personal and familial medical histories. However, during the course of your medical examinations, you may be asked personal information about your sexuality and intimate relationships. While you do have the right to not answer questions you are uncomfortable with, it is important to note that doctors will ask personal questions for the sake of addressing any potential medical concerns.

Questions to ask:

How much information about my personal life will I have to reveal in this process?

If you decide to donate your eggs, it is important to know that you may have to answer personal questions about your family, health and lifestyle, including your sexual health and lifestyle. You may be required to answer private questions about past sexual partners or experiences.

It is not uncommon to be disqualified from being a donor if a woman has had more than one sexual partner in the last 6 months, or if your partner (or ex-partners) has been diagnosed with HIV, hepatitis B and/or C.

Warning: Privacy and sexual health/history

Before giving any information to an agency, ask about all the ways it may be used. Do not apply unless you are comfortable with revealing personal information to third parties. Also, if you’re uncomfortable sharing details about your sexual health and history, you should consider not applying.

Does my partner need to be aware of the requirements I must adhere to?

Some places may require your spouse or sexual partner(s) to also be medically tested. Also, during the psychological screening the psychologist may ask about the extent to which you have discussed egg donation with your partner.

While taking medications during the process, donors are not allowed to have sexual intercourse. There is a higher risk of becoming pregnant with multiples because of the fertility drugs involved in the cycle. It is extremely important to abstain from sexual intercourse and to talk with your partner about the implications.

Do I need to abstain from sex throughout this process?

You will be required to abstain from all sexual activity once beginning the medication protocol (injections). During the course of ovary-stimulating injections, you are particularly susceptible to pregnancy. Therefore many programs strongly recommend or even require you to be abstinent during this time.

Could my sexual orientation prevent me from getting chosen as a donor?

There are no professional recommendations that bar women from donating based on their sexual orientation, however each program can decide whether to not accept donors based on any trait or qualification. This varies from program to program. If you are excluded from one program, it does not mean that you will be excluded from another one.

Will I be asked to reveal my sexual orientation, if I don’t want to?

You may be asked to reveal your sexual orientation. You have the right to not respond to any questions you do not feel comfortable answering. However, some agencies require all questions to be answered to be considered. If you are disqualified for not answering certain questions with one agency, you can contact another agency that may be more understanding of your desire for privacy.